Notes to My Younger Self

Have you ever looked back at your life and said, “Dang, if only I knew then, what I know now, I would definitely make some different choices”? I DEFINITELY have (real talk – I probably say it at least three times a week or more lol). Not to say that I don’t love my life, because I do, but… well you know.

If you’re anything like me (either admittedly or secretly), I’m sure you will appreciate these notes I wrote to myself during my quiet journaling time. Hopefully they will help you or someone you know and love.

DARLING, YOU’RE DIFFERENT and that’s ok! You were made to do wonderful things, SO GO DO THEM! I know it is hard and you want to fit in, but make your moves with the end goal in sight. You were not created to blend in. Those people you’re making poor decisions with and for will not be in your life later. I get it. I really do. You are tired of being picked on and want to be accepted, but honey you weren’t made from that cloth, so pick yourself up, accept it and move on.

STAY AWAY FROM TOXIC PEOPLE! You know, those ones who are always making fun of you, belittling you, stealing from you, taking advantage of you, or make you second guess who you know you are deep down inside. They see a light in you that you do not yet see in yourself. They want that light and the longer you stay in the mud with them, the dimmer your light gets. Truth is – they want that light to go all the way out. Tell them to kick rocks and shine on suga. Shine on!

ENJOY EACH MOMENT & TAKE OPPORTUNITY BY THE HORNS, but do it in a positive way. Go to grad night and make it a night to remember. Let your family put that memory page in the yearbook during your senior year. Your kids will enjoy looking back at that one day. Take those honor courses and slay them! Volunteer and leave an impact. Get all the scholarships you can. Save yourself (and your parents) some debt and money. Go to college and make a positive mark. You are a blessing, so get out there and leave that sparkle wherever you go. Life is happening around you and waits on no one. The time is NOW!!! You’ve got this.

ALWAYS BE THANKFUL. Yes, you were blessed with an amazing family and a great network of people, but no one owes you a thing. Be sure to let them know you are appreciated. It’s not a burden to write a thank you note. Your Auntie is right, not to mention, you will love doing it later in life. Imagine how great you will make someone feel by simply showing gratitude.

IT’S OK TO MAKE MISTAKES, but don’t make the same ones over and over again, because at that point, they are no longer mistakes. They are decisions. Learn from them and move on. Do not get stuck. Don’t allow anyone to take your mistakes and try to define you with them. You are not your mistakes. You are bigger than them.

SPEND TIME WITH THOSE YOU LOVE. Get in the kitchen with your great grandmother. You are going to miss her cooking one day. Go thrifting with your grandfather, it is going to become a fad later :). Talk with your Auntie, because one day you are going to try to pick up the phone and she won’t be there. Cherish those moments. Get over your little teenage attitude because those moments matter.

LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER!!!!!! I could write a book on that, but I’m going to stop it right there.  (hahaha)

BE A LIGHT. Believe it or not, people look up to you. You have an energy that people gravitate to and God created you to be a major blessing to others. So act like it! Walk in that light. Do your part to make the world a better place. It’s in you. You just have to do it.

WORK TOWARDS YOUR DREAMS starting now! Imagine how far along you will be by the time you are 30. Don’t be afraid to fail. They are lessons. You are good enough. The only good things that will come to you will come when you get up and chase them. Take a deep breath and jump in! You can do it and once you do, your talent will shine through. Take on what you can handle, keep your word, be meticulous in everything you do and you will soar. You have no choice but to succeed, so get to it!

MASTER THE ART OF NO! It is a magical word and you need to learn to use it. Bottom line, if it doesn’t speak well to your soul, the answer is NO! Trust that gut.

THESE GUYS WILL BE THERE, DO YOU! Honestly, half of the ones that you meet in the beginning will be worth NOTHING. They will be an “interesting” past time that is not worth your time. They will get you into trouble, distract you and cause you some major setbacks that you will spend a lifetime trying to explain. It is not worth it. Focus on you and watch the one you need show up at the right time, then you can build an empire together. Until then, don’t focus on them. Save yourself a ton of headache. Trust me. Do it for the sanity of your parents, your future children and most of YOU. WAIT!!!!!!

MAKE LASTING FRIENDSHIPS. They will carry you during some of your rough patches. Again, no toxic people. Be very particular about the friends you choose. Ask yourself if these people going to lift you or pull you down. You need friends on the same road as you. Your life will definitely benefit from it.

JUST RELAX. I can’t say it any clearer. Anxiety will knock you on your butt more than once if you let it. Take everything with a grain of salt, pick your battles and give the rest to God.

WATCH YOUR MONEY! Stack and pray. Guard your credit, save your money and make wise investments. You like security, so set yourself up for it. Be mindful of your spending. You don’t need all that stuff, you’re just going to lose it or give it away anyway. 🙂

KEEP GOD FIRST!!!! Always pray, stay focused on God because He’s got your back. Listen to Him, and your path will always be laid out for you. That relationship with God is going to carry you through a lot of what is ahead.

Baby, life has some amazing things in store for you, you’ve just got to do your part!


  1. Darcel

    July 14, 2017 at 5:39 am

    I thought this was simply amazing, in fact most of those points actually hit in places I felt I needed to get that extra understanding in. Thank you so much for sharing such wisdom and truth. In life alot of us just need motivation or to know that we are not the only ones facing these issues of daily life. Keep it up Amanda truly enjoyed this one…..waiting for more daily lol 😁🤗🤗🤗

  2. Sokia Chenevert

    July 14, 2017 at 2:17 pm

    Amanda so proud of you! I love it keeep inspiring and growing.

  3. Anna

    September 5, 2017 at 5:50 pm

    Love these tips. I can’t agree more with staying away from toxic people. It helps you live your life in way more peace than dealing with aggravating people!

  4. Naomi Destiny

    September 5, 2017 at 8:16 pm

    Great post and really helpful advises to live by.

  5. Sierra

    September 5, 2017 at 10:30 pm

    Such great reminders that we need to remember on a daily basis! Thank you for sharing with us 🙂

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